Fear of Flying or Fear of Dying?


Our website at Fearless Flight.com has the capability to track fear of flying keyword searches people make to end up here.  I look at them occasionally, hoping to come up with new ideas for this blog.  

Today I noticed Google keyword searches from Canada, the UK, Australia.  People from every place imaginable are afraid to fly! The most popular keyword searches reflect this:  fear of plane crashing, fear of turbulence, plane crash statistics, flying safety--every fearful flyer is looking for some reassurance that their plane isn't going to crash.  

It always amazes me though that those keywords searches never list the really big fear, the "D" word that's behind everyone's fear of flying:  FEAR OF DYING.  That's what it boils down to.  None of us wants to die anytime soon, but guess what--we're all terminal (not to be confused with the airport building).  Some of us just want to exercise control of the time and the place --and fearful flyers want to do all they can to guarantee that it won't be in an airplane on their next flight.  

The very funny Nora Ephron writes in her essay on fearlessness that "I used to be afraid of flying, but one day my husband pointed out to me that it was narcissistic to think that my particular plane was going to crash.  That amused me and made sense, so it was sort of the end of my fear of flying."

 My new neighbor tells me that he used to be afraid of flying until he had to do it, over and over again for business.  Now he says he falls asleep before takeoff. 

So what's the key to your fear of flying?  And more importantly, how will you get over it?  The Nora Ephron approach (change your thinking) or my new neighbor's (get on a plane)?  If neither of these works for you, explore fearless flight.com for ways to get over your own fear of flying.  Just don't let fear of dying keep you grounded any more.     

i am flying tomorrow...is there anything i can do to calm down?

please help

 

I wish I had seen this comment earlier when the person wrote it last week.  Unfortunately it's typical of the last-minute pleas for help that we sometimes get from people.  They put off dealing with their fear of flying until the last possible minute, and by then, it's too late for us to be able to be of much help.  Getting over fear of flying is a process!  I wish there was an overnight cure, but there really isn't.  You can get over fear of flying--but you just can't wave a magic wand and have it go away.   You have to admit you have a problem, have a willingness to do the work, and get some help and none of these can be accomplished over night.   Next time, I hope this person contacts me so that I can indeed offer some suggestions to calm down before the flight.   

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